99福利视频
By Awbrey Michelle Willett
Katherine Ninos, MA, LPCC, is Executive Vice President of 99福利视频 and Director of the New Earth Institute. She received her BA in Psychology from Alfred University, New York, and her MA in Transformational Counseling and Education from Quimby College in its first graduating class. (Quimby College later became 99福利视频.) Katherine has been involved with every aspect of 99福利视频鈥檚 growth and development since 1980 and spoke of loving and caring for the school as one of her children during our interview.听 Katherine quickly identified self-care as self-love saying poignantly, 鈥渟o much of it (self-care) is if I am treating myself as 鈥榯he beloved鈥 or not?.”听 Katherine was my consciousness teacher, my vision quest guide, and is currently my academic advisor- all incredibly transformative experiences.听 Her words often resonate in my thoughts and heart like a mother鈥檚 voice and when I sit with her, I feel lovingly exposed.听
Katherine described her self-love experience as, 鈥渄ropping in with the intention of being available for guidance.鈥澨 She spoke of the need to, 鈥渒now how to not know鈥 and a constant remembering that, 鈥渢here are bigger forces at work.鈥澨 She said, 鈥渢here鈥檚 a humility to that, to keep surrendering my idea of things enough so that I can actually experience being in the flow of what spirit is trying to tell me, or of what I am trying to tell me.鈥澨 Practically speaking, Katherine asks herself, 鈥渨hat鈥檚 useful and not useful? It helps one navigate all things: Diet, how I talk to myself, through awareness what my physical body needs, my emotional body, or my thoughts.”听 听Known in the research as 鈥渟elf-efficacy,鈥 the counselors鈥 confidence to exert control over their thinking, their behavior, and social environment, was found to play a role in protecting against compassion fatigue (Craig, 2010).听 Katherine seems to be suggesting that it is knowing how to let go, as well as having self-efficacy, agency that is guided by what鈥檚 useful, that supports her sense of direction with self-care.
Katherine didn鈥檛 see self-care as a moral dilemma.听 鈥淚 feel like therapy works to the degree to which love is present.听 How that works is sort of a mystery of healing, it鈥檚 not something that anybody does to another person.听 Maybe the ethical dilemma is that some people are easier to love than others.鈥澨 When asked how she deals with this dilemma she said, 鈥淚 have sat with it by taking it on as given to me by spirit, as a way to get past whatever is inside of me that blocks me from my own loving, rather than anything they have to do differently.鈥澨 For Katherine self-love is about approaching our work through our heart intelligence. When we treat ourselves as the beloved, we are using our heart intelligence to remember that, 鈥渢he oneness is always happening spiritually.听 We are individuals but on a spiritual level there鈥檚 the oneness even though we are unique and different from each other, and so there鈥檚 a place where anything that we do (we do to the other).鈥澨 Katherine explained it well when she said, 鈥淭he core of self-love is when I am present and brining a complete awareness of who I am as a spiritual being who is incarnated, so that I actually feel my total worth, my divinity, so I actually can experience reverence and love for the opportunity to be.鈥 The research suggests that we may develop resilience (resource) through anything that makes us more aware and present.
References
Craig, C. D. (2010). Compassion satisfaction, compassion fatigue, and burnout in a national sample of trauma treatments therpists. Anxiety, Stress & Coping, 23(3), 319-339.
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