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12 Points Regarding Required Therapy at SWC
1.听听听听听听 If you are doing this program right, you are challenging yourself to grow, stretch, transform. Hard stuff comes up. Working with that material AS it comes up is the best way to integrate it, make sense of it, move through it. Or that’s my take…
2.听听听听听听 Spreading out therapy, at reasonably regular intervals, is the spirit of this requirement. You wouldn鈥檛 fast for a month, then in two days eat 60,000 calories, and say 鈥淲ell, I fulfilled my nutritional needs鈥擨 just did it all at once.鈥 Well, that鈥檚 sort of what doing ZERO sessions (or the one required one first quarter鈥攁nd that requirement is changing, by the way) for as long as you can get away with it is like. Then Academic Council has to tell you that you need fifteen, like, soon. Please don鈥檛 put yourself in that position, and, c’mon, do not try to blame Academic Council for putting you in that position, dude… I mean, we love you, but…and…
3.听听听听听听 We know the cost is not easy for some of you. Maybe many of you. We get it. Putting therapy off because money is tight is not going to work out. It鈥檒l just get that much harder later on. Guarantee you. And we almost NEVER approve a petition to not do your sessions. And therapists do not generally lower their fees as the academic year goes on, just so you know…
4.听听听听听听 If your therapy seems pointless, or dull, or nondescript, or uninspired, or not helpful, or if you sit in your car before sessions trying to make something up to fill the hour, that is on you.听听You have a lot of responsibility and opportunity to make your therapy a good experience. If you order a medium rare burger, and I bring it to you burnt as hell, would you just eat it, or say 鈥淭his isn鈥檛 what I was looking for.鈥 Yeah, that second one. Treat therapy like that. You鈥檙e paying for a service. Get your money鈥檚 worth.
5.听听听听听听 If you鈥檙e seeing a graduate of SWC and sessions drift into telling stories about Katherine, or Connie, or your therapist starts telling you about THEIR Light Figure—that might not be a good sign. You鈥檙e not there to be SWC Buds. You鈥檙e paying for therapy. Get it? But this thing happens from time to time…
6.听听听听听听 You have an opportunity, at the meta-level, to take note of what your therapist is doing鈥攁nd not doing, asking鈥攁nd not asking. Do they leave the topic up to you, or guide you? Have they never asked about your substance use, or nutrition, or fitness? Should they? What do you WISH they would ask? Or do? Or challenge you on? Keep notes on that stuff鈥f you were your therapist, where would YOU go…?
7.听听听听听听 Some therapists check in-鈥淗ow鈥檚 this going for you, so far?鈥 Others never think of it. One graduate told me her therapist checked in way too OFTEN. What鈥檚 your therapist doing? What would you want to do if you were them?
8.听听听听听听 If it鈥檚 not a good fit, move along. Keeping up with the food metaphor, you wouldn鈥檛 order the Kung Pao Chicken for the tenth time if it sucked the first nine. You probably wouldn鈥檛 even order the Mu Shu鈥攜ou鈥檇 probably try a different restaurant鈥
9.听听听听听听 Yes, it鈥檚 expensive, yes, it鈥檚 hard (if you are engaged), yes, it鈥檚 sometimes inconvenient, yes, it stirs things up. That鈥檚 the field you鈥檙e choosing. It鈥檚 one of the oldest professions. It鈥檚 not easy, on either end of the relationship.
10.听听 But it can be incredibly rewarding.
11.听听 Don鈥檛 put it off. It doesn鈥檛 go away, and it doesn鈥檛 suddenly get cheaper in the spring. Or easier.
12.听听 This is a lesson in Consciousness. It鈥檚 a firewalk. It鈥檚 a half-marathon. It鈥檚 a cleanse. It鈥檚 a vision quest. It鈥檚 a Hero鈥檚 Journey. It鈥檚 a hike to the top. It鈥檚 black diamond slopes. It鈥檚 becoming a therapist. That鈥檚 what you鈥檙e doing. You鈥檙e becoming a therapist. Boom.听
By Jim Nolan, Former SWC President (who, by the way, sees a therapist)
